I first encountered this saying maybe 15 years ago in a book titled The Millionaire Next Door that I'd borrowed early in grad school. I read a lot of books - about every kind of thing - in grad school. Problem: you're supposed to NOT do that in grad school; you're supposed to focus. But how are you supposed to know (believe, accept) what to focus on before you know (for instance) what not to focus on?
busques tres pico...del toro saying like crazy. By the way it means: don't search for three horns on the bull. (or roughly Don't look for three horns on a cow.) I knew it was profound. I knew that it applied to my situation. I knew that I was stuck somehow, frustrated where other people seemed to be accepting, and needed to unravel this saying, but it remained an unsolved riddle.
something about unicorns and how they don't exist or why or something. This gave me a new, pretty visual for a three-horned bull where before I had only some grotesque growth from Revelations to imagine.
In part I came to understand just because I'm older. I see now how unique my "overthinking" problem is. Look, it's not normal to look for that much more - sometimes a life is just a life, sometimes the things people do are just because the other person did them and social psychologists say people are just copycats, sometimes because their parents did them and so "it is written; destiny", sometimes because they just happened, sometimes because they were paid, sometimes because they felt good, sometimes because they felt bad. And no, for most people, there is no "why" beyond these self-evident and temporarily satisfying answers. For many people, that's what old age is for, or the death bed - time to reflect finally, on priorities, on if/how things could have been different.
|film: Linda and Ali|
I'll say it's relevant that I wasn't feeling very well at the time that I came to understand mental laziness, the possibility or the importance of accepting drab, relishing the just-ok, letting life be. My brain was tired. I feel differently now. I feel stronger and more able to perform my little optimization routines.
unicorns the colour of bubbles. Yes to dreams and fairytale magic and impractical wishes. Sometimes people are really Superman or Wonderwoman. Sometimes the job is incredible fun. Sometimes, something happens that has never happened before. Sometimes there is luck.
my books. ###Three Sisters, novel #1 here###